Dictionary meaning of love is "the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another.". You cant change love but love can change you.
You can love someone for their qualities and not
have a sense of intimacy. This type of love gives rise to competition and
jealousy.
If love is based on the qualities of a person,
that love is not stable. After some time the qualities change and the love becomes shaky.
However, if you love
someone because they belong to you, then that love remains for lifetimes.
Loving someone because they belong to you, great or otherwise, is unconditional
love. Love that is centered becomes bliss.
And when there is so much
love you take total responsibility for any misunderstanding. For a moment you
may express dismay on the surface. But when you do not feel the dismay in your
heart, you arrive at a perfect understanding. You are in a state where all
problems and all differences slide away and only love shines through.
Love is preserved by wisdom,
destroyed by demand, tested by doubt, nourished by longing. It blossoms with
faith and grows with gratitude. Love is the essence of the universe. Love in
action is service. You are Love!
The ability to receive genuine love comes with
the ability to give it.
Unconditional
love or love that only wants to give and not take or expect, strengthens and is
healing, it never hurts or inflicts pain on the other.
When a person is in love with another human, the marvelous thing about being in love is that it is a totally positive projection. There is a person who projects on to you all that is positive : you are marvelous, you are unique, you are indispensable, you are a treasure. That positive projection generates a euphoric state, of bliss, of well being, whereby you are flying. You feel loved, cared for, needed and valued.
Sometimes we have the wrong type of mercy, or we want to take control, thinking we know better, so we step into people's lives too much. This interference and lack of free space provokes hatred, resentment and conflict with others.
Love is incomplete and it will have to remain incomplete. If something is complete, that means its boundaries have been marked; its limitations are known. For love to be infinite, it has to be incomplete.
Relationships can either take the form of strength or weakness depending on the mind. If the mind is strong then relationships can be like a gift to us, but if the mind is weak and not in control, then relationships can feel like bondage.
प्रेम न तो पूरी तरह छिपाया जा सकता है न दिखाया जा सकता है| इसे जितना छिपाओ उतना ही प्रत्यक्ष दीखने लगता है|
Source : brahmakumaris.org, srisriravishankar.org
